“Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough…”
She is moving to a different city to study, he is moving to another state for work, her mum got married in South Africa, so they have to move to pursue these individual goals but still keep in touch and nurture their relationship, I met this guy online and we have been dating for a year, he lives in Australia.
Distance becomes an obstacle to many when matters of the heart are in question…
Long distance relationships have now become more popular because there is a lot of movement and opportunities to pursue in this era of globalization. Thanks to social media platforms for making it easier for couples to stay in touch every single day. Apps such as Skype, Facetime, Facebook video calling and many others, make it even easier for people to see each other when need be. Even with all these, long distance relationships are still hard to maintain, because just like in other types of relationships these also require much more commitment than just talking, facetiming and texting. At the same time, many of us tend to feel lonely because we miss the physical aspect of our partner.
Well, let me share a story…
My friend has been in a long distance relationship for the past 2 and a half years. He lives in Africa (their home country) while she live in Europe. She moved because of family. They got to know each other through a mutual friend who thought they would be perfect for each other despite the fact that they had never met each other. One thing led to the other and 2 years after the relationship, she visited home for a while where they finally physically met. 2 and half years later, they are still in a blessed and healthy relationship and we pray for many more.
LDRs are not for everyone and NOT MANY prosper, but the few that do, tend to be great. They require twice the love and trust of any normal relationship because you do not get to physically be with your partner hence, you cannot always be part of what they do, neither can you spy on their every move. You need to have patience to endure every single day, because at times, someone might not necessarily be able to reply a text or pick a call but you still need to have patience enough to understand.
However, LDRs have a lot of pros to them and I believe instead of one being “a little dead” there is more time to do a lot. You get to be a well-seasoned individual since you have a lot of alone time to nurture your character, values and your environment in general. You get to discover a lot about yourself in the process of you building or rather moulding yourself for your partner. You get to spend time with other friends.
The best of it all (according to me) is that you get to chase your goals and dreams, you get to focus on school, work or whatever you have going on in life, because there is no physical distraction (That’s if you know where your heart is).
So, how do you get Long Distance Relationship to work?
- Plan your time and schedule to make sure you keep communicating as much as possible. Remember, in all relationships, communication is key and this either builds or breaks your relationships. For a long distance relationship, communication is everything. But do not lose yourself by spending hours on a video call or end up being addicted to your gadgets because of your partner.
- Trust is essential and once you do not trust your partner, you might as well not be in the relationship. Let your partner be an individual.
- Pray for each other and with each other. For a long distance relationship to work, you need to connect in every way possible, especially because you lack the physical connection. Spiritual connection is always a plus, no matter how spiritual you both are. Furthermore, it gives a sense of extra love and care.
Value every single moment you get to spend together and make as many memories as you can.
- Remember to plan ahead and respect each other. Make time, think of holidays, weekends and prioritise. Just as much as you would if you were close to each other.
For those in a long distance relationship or those thinking of starting one, I believe the journey will be a very exciting one. I wish you the best of luck.
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From us, with love,