“Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside”
Ever heard the saying that “things are not always what they seem to be” and asked yourself how true this is? So, today I took time to look through my social media accounts, and I was thrilled by the kind of image many people portray in their posts. The kind of lifestyle most people purport to be living. I meticulously sliced and diced through my friends’ posts and looked through the insta stories of the people I follow, and ooh!! 99% of what was posted seemed so positive. For example, visits to great and memorable places; people having dinner at executive hotels and restaurants; enjoying road trips and rides in posh cars; the list is endless. I never understand how life can be this interesting without challenges. Was I the only one living a boring life, with no much top class events to share, or is it that my life so outdated! I wondered.
On my Facebook too, my observations were posts of blossoming relationships. How good the relationships are from the deep messages posted. And at no time did I see a post on the many challenges people face in relationships such as break ups, despite the fact that they are happening. Is their love life this smooth? I wondered once again. But wait a minute!
Social media has become a platform for competition, where all kinds of lies are used to make up a façade far away from what the reality really is. Most people have failed to realize that what they see is not what it is, and have ended up striving to ‘catch up’ with the trend on social media. Some go out of their way to borrow clothes and Photoshop ‘cool’ images just to fit in. Others are doing everything possible including selling their bodies, just to remain relevant! Many have lost focus in pursuing their destiny, leading to regret and a feeling great shame and failure. The truth is, in black and white, what you see is not always what there is!
Why are we not living the life we are destined to live? Or is it that the world is changing so fast, and we are too slow in playing catch up? Many have majored on the minors and minored on the majors. They have put less concentration on things that build the whole, like education, career, business and so on, that are meant to better their lives. They have instead focused on quick fixes, selective truths and lies to create an image on social media, whose shadow is an ugly looking reality. People should try to create a life that not only looks good at the outside but also at the inside. Just because one took a photo next to a Boeing 787 at JKIA does not mean they are such always-airborne folk, maybe just got a quick tour around from a relative who works there! Ever thought about that?
Next time you feel distraught about your life not being so perfect compared to some fellow who showed you just how theirs is, know this, behind every person posting a cool picture inside the Obama Room at Masai Mara National Park, or some foolhardy lass showing off their ‘nice’ looking derriere with the caption ‘Bae likes this!’ Know that there is a whole lot more people actually living the life, BUT are not telling anyone about it.
But what makes people feel the need to want to tell the whole world every cool thing happening in their life? Truth is, I don’t know the answer to that, but what I do know, is that psychologists attribute it to some deeply rooted personal feeling of inadequacy. Never underestimate the power of your life, as is, people respect the quiet ones, the ones who are not all over the place trying to make everyone how good things are on their side of life.
Don’t get me wrong though, there are people who are actually living the life they portray, and do the things they post. Thing is, why the need to let the world know about it? To earn some cool points?
From us, with love,