“Humility with sincerity is intelligence and self-respect which keeps us from thinking too highly or too meanly of ourselves. It makes us modest by reminding us how far we have come short of what we can be”
Humility is the one virtue so hard for us human beings to attain, yet the most valuable of them all. It is the virtue that keeps several vices away from one’s soul. It is also the virtue we all need, to keep ourselves from self-destruction.
Humility is the quality of having a modest or low view of one’s importance, and that is not the nature of human beings. We are sadly egoistic, which is the antonym of humility. Egoism is a person’s sense of self-esteem or self-importance, which is a vice that sadly dwells in us all. To some, it’s a very big issue, while to others, it almost doesn’t exist because they have mastered how to tame it and have allowed the supremacy of humility in their lives. Most of us, correlate humility, to being lesser of a person than who we are, because it is often in tight and tempting situations that our egoism manifests.
The best example, of situations that trigger the egoism out of someone, is when engaged in a conflict. We realise, and many will agree with me that there is that spirit that encompasses you during this particular moment that you automatically start lifting your shoulders high even if sometimes you may not feel like you want to. It emanates from within you and makes you unable to listen to anybody. It also makes you see nothing else but what you want to see. It is so destructive that even if your opponent apologises, the apologies will fuel it the more because the little voices of egoism start whispering from within of how great you are, how you have conquered, how people around you think you have won. Instead of accepting and appreciating the apologies, you raise your voice even higher to draw more attention. The more you do this the more you feed your ego and the greater the ego monster grow deeper roots inside you. Many of us believe saying sorry is a weakness, but it might surprise you to know that saying sorry is the greatest sign of strength. Egoistic people are weak people. Most of them use egoism as a shield to reality.
The fruits of egoism are destructive, regrettable, depressive and sometimes may lead to loneliness. By this, I mean:
1. We end up making more foes than friends.
2. We burn bridges that we might need yet again in the future.
3. We are lead to anger, jealousy, disobedience, pride, impatience, unteachable spirit and impulsive decisions.
All these, do us more harm than it does to the world. Apart from those ungenuine friends who may be benefiting something from you, everybody else tends to keep off an egoistic person. Humility completely overshadows and breaks down all the above. Humility shapes us, shapes our character and saves us from situations that we might regret in future. There is no loss that comes with humbling ourselves. You don’t become a lesser person either. Only the like minded might think one is a fool to apologise. Just as we wrote in our previous post, what people think about you should not influence your projection. Whatever constitutes your well-being should be a priority in your life.
Do not settle for a short-term win, which might only last for five minutes, rather choose a permanent win which may not be understood at the moment, but will give you overwhelming peace and make sense in the long run. Tame your egoism now. Embrace humility and you will stop being a short term winner and become an everyday winner. Be an overcomer. Be a great person, conquer the world. This is only possible by closing the doors of your ego and embracing humility. Try that today and you will never regret.
From us, with love,