“The key to success is not dodging every bullet but being able to recover quickly.”
Growing up is always exciting until you become an adult, and have to be independent. When you actually have to deal with different responsibilities and face life head-on. Every single day comes with growth. Now imagine what a year or 5 does to you. There are certain things I definitely think I could have done better, in my teen years which I do want to take with me and do better in the next decade. I do hope this article also motivates someone else to change certain aspects to make their lives better despite which decade they are in.
- Listen attentively to my mother’s (parent/guardian) advice. Yes, I wish I listened to my mother a bit more than I did, because some of the “wrong” decisions I made, she had already foreseen. I am however grateful that I realized this sooner than later. I definitely will take time and adhere more to her advice prior to me making worse decisions in my 20’s.
- Live in the moment rather than focus too much on the excitement of growing. By this, I, don’t mean party more or anything of the sort, I simply mean, enjoy my teen years. Enjoy being a “child”, enjoy the transition and make the most out of it. Because at the moment, starting campus life, having to take responsibility for actions, bills, behaviour, and being a role model does not allow you to have childish characteristics or even have the time to do silly things because it is absurd. Instead of doing the above, the excitement of turning 18, 19, 20 was in me since I was 13-14. The excitement of being called an adult took over, to the extent that my mentality and behaviour changed to actually behaving as an adult, which can both be positive and negative.
- Embrace the fact that there is time for everything. This point to some extent supports number 2. Because there is time to be a child and time to be an adult, but also in many other life aspects, there is time for everything. Do not rush or procrastinate. Do things according to the right time. You will finish school at the right time, you will get married/marry at the right time, you will have kids at the right time, you will get a promotion at the right time. There is nothing better than achieving your life’s milestones and goals at the right moment so be patient but don’t slack.
- Listen more than I speak. This is a key point, wisdom comes from listening, however at times, I (I know I am not alone in this) used to feel the need to be heard to sound smart. At times we feel that the more we speak, the smarter we appear to be but no. It’s not about the quantity, it’s about the quality. The quantity of what you speak could be an image of how empty your mind is if nothing of value is in what you speak. Quality often comes in small packages and the same applies to you. That one phrase you speak could be better than 1000 phrases used by someone else, therefore it’s important to be the last to speak. You will have listened to everyone’s opinions, ideas and taken time to analyze and properly process thus, you’ll filter the less important things and maximize on the valuable points.
- Cut off “friends” who keep you from progress. I feel so much pain whenever I reflect back a few years ago because we tend to hear and even talk about staying away from bad company, however, staying away is easier said than done especially if we have invested trust and so much into a friendship. It takes time to gain the courage to keep away from bad company and often to some of us, we only back off when it’s too late despite the fact that we already had a feeling of things going wrong. I insist that it’s important, actually very important to stay away from people who are negative, keep you away from progress and people who do not support you! Cut such people off with immediate effect or else, you will be the one to lose. So many friends affect different aspects of our lives negatively. Those are enemies!
- Never underestimate the power of the tongue. There are certain things in life that did not work simply because I spoke negativity to them. “I can’t-do this” “I am not good enough” “This is not for me” “It will fail”, and much more are phrases we use subconsciously, not realizing that we are the cause of our own limitations. You go to school, and each time you sit in class you declare “I don’t understand” “I am not good at this” “I don’t know” or “I can’t-do it”, how do you expect to pass? The same applies to very many other aspects.
What I declare about myself and my life is what will happen and become a reality. so change your words, turn the negative phrases into positive ones and watch you do greater things.
- Trends do not necessarily apply to me. The fact that something is popular amongst your friends, the society, does not mean that it’s applicable or good for you. You don’t have to be in a relationship because all your friends are in one, you don’t need to become a lawyer because everyone around you is one. You don’t need to become skinny because it’s “trendy” Stick to being you, however, you are! You are you unique and that is something the society lacks these days since everyone wants to be the same.
- Intimate relationships should not be a priority. There is nothing more time wasting than an intimate relationship when you are a teen or in your early youth life. Don’t get me wrong, some of us are lucky to be found (keyword, you should not be searching) that one person to build with at a very young age, however, being so concerned about intimacy should not at all be a priority or a focus. Focus on you, build yourself and this will find you at the right time.
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