“If you surround yourself with clowns, don’t be surprised when your life resembles a circus”
How boring would life be without friends, loved ones and individuals who generally support and love us for who we are? Very boring, don’t you agree? However, do we just keep people around us for the sake of having individuals around us or is there a deeper meaning and purpose to those who we keep around us?
Times without number, I have insisted on the importance of quality over quantity but how do we determine the quality of those around us, so as to narrow down the quantity? I have been asked this severally, but I never had a straightforward answer because I have always believed that quality is relative. What may apply to me as worth keeping around, may not be applicable to others. Thus, I had to pick the minds of a few individuals which made me conclude the following:
The quality of who to keep in your life can be determined in three general points. Does the individual:
- Lead you financial growth?
- Lead you to spiritual and mental growth? and/or
- Lead you to academic/career growth/progress?
We all have goals, dreams, and ambitions and everyone wants to succeed in different aspects of life, but the 3 major aspects are financial growth, spiritual growth and academic/career progress.
1. Does(do) your friend(s) lead you to financial growth?
– Some friends are nothing but leeches who suck your pockets dry. I have nothing against lending money to a friend when in need and so on, but you know those individuals who only contact you when they need money but never check on you or worse case scenario, never pay back or help when you are in need! Cut the leech off! You are getting drained and with time, you will run dry!
– You need a friend(s) who can teach you how to fish, an individual(s) with whom you can discuss the next move to make so as to create an extra source of income. One who’ll see a job opportunity that fits your cv and pass it on, because he/she understands the fact you both need to grow financially and to do so, you need to uplift each other in every way possible.
2. Does (do) your friend(s) lead you to spiritual and mental growth?
– Spiritual growth isn’t only about being religious but also matters peace of mind and spirit. A positive increase in your mental and spiritual growth. Someone who can be your peace whenever you are in distress or lead you to a peaceful state whether through prayers, meditation and/or a productive discussion.
– There are people who only call you when they need to gossip, or vent out their anger and frustrations not caring about your state of mind and at the end of the day, you not only feel burdened but dishearted! Cut these individuals off!
– A friend who cares will be your peace, he/she won’t seek to be a menace to your spirit but a source of peace.
3. Does (do) your friend(s) lead you to academic/career growth/progress?
– We all have that one friend who will want you to go out on a school/work night and tells you that a day from school/work isn’t much. “It won’t hurt,” they say until it becomes a once a week streak, which gradually progresses to twice a week and before you know it, you are failing school and/or losing a job that you worked so hard to get.
– Keep them far away. A good friend will understand the importance of your growth and will consider that over anything else. If anything he/she will do anything possible to make sure that you perform to the best of your ability and maximize on your potential.
If you surround yourself with clowns, don’t be surprised when your life resembles a circus. Keep this in mind and make sure that you analyze the individuals around you so as to differentiate between the clowns and those who add value to your life.
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