“If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten”
I never thought that at 21, I’d have gotten to the level that I’m at in my life. Don’t get me wrong, I am not yet where I am supposed to be, neither am I where I could have been if I followed the path earlier on but I certainly know that I am ahead of where I could have been if I sat to wait for life to take its course. Being an individual who has always desired to be great, I thought being great is something you are “born to be”. Hence I lived a life not trying to work towards it, but adjusting to life waiting for greatness to happen because I was born to be great right? NO! No one is born to be great, you become great. You work towards greatness, and yes I know you’ve heard this over and over again from motivational speakers but maybe you’ve not been told exactly how to become great! Well, I’ll dissect the steps for you. They are not really the easiest but if it was easy then everyone would be great right?
- Your will has to exceed your effort: You cannot be great if your effort exceeds your will because your effort can never push you beyond your limits. Your effort will always convince you to do the bare minimum and you will be okay with that.
You’ve probably heard the saying “The difference between the ordinary and the extraordinary is the “extra” in front of the ordinary”. Let me give you an example; if the ordinary thing to do, is waking up at 06:30, take a shower, take your breakfast, brush your teeth, comb your hair and go to school/work, why not wake up at 05:30, take a run, or write down your thoughts and plans, or meditate depending on what exactly you want to achieve in life.
Steve Jobs took the mobile phone industry by storm not because he invented something different, I mean the likes of Nokia, Motorola and the rest were in existence but it was his extra that made apple dominate in an already existing industry.
- Do not stop when things get hard, when you become tired or when you face rejection, stop when you have reached the goal, stop when you’re done: Persistence and consistency are key. I have been running this very blog for 2 years now and I can tell you that it’s not been easy to stay consistent. Times come when I get caught up with life and wonder what to write, how can I empower others, when I’m facing my own challenges. At times I just get tired wondering how I’ve been at this for a whole 2 years and probably not where I would envision myself to be. Such thoughts make individuals quit. Quit on their dreams, their goals, and their vision. I could start naming several individuals who have fought against all odds to get to their goals.
Let me give you a little test. Think of any successful individual you know, this could be in any industry (Entrepreneurship, Arts/Music/Actor(ress), Politics….) and find their story, I can promise you that all have gone through situations that you’d imagine should have put them down but they still pressed on. So what is holding you back?
- Learn how to think positively: The wise woman who raised me constantly reminded me of the fact that “As a man thinketh, so he is”. If you are the type of individual to see negativity and failure even before you start something, then there is no way you will change that situation. I used to think very lightly of my mother’s words until I learned the hard way. “Asiyesikia la mkuu huvunjika guu au sio?” (He that does not heed to the advice of the elders ends up with a broken leg), well both my legs ended up broken (metaphorically).
The moment you learn how to see an opportunity where others see impossibility or see victory where others see failure, then you’ll that you’ll stop experiencing frequent failures and setbacks in all aspects of your life.
- Quit feeling sorry for yourself because of your circumstances: You say you can’t because you are poor, that you don’t come from a rich background, you say you can’t because you got into an accident and lost an arm or a leg, you say you can’t because of your circumstance! Your circumstances DO NOT define your ability! In the words of Bill gates “If you’re born poor it’s not your mistake, but if you die poor it’s your mistake”, a great example would be Oprah, born into poverty to a teenage mother, molested while young, but still did not let her “circumstance” define her ability. Went on to being listed as the richest African American in the 20th century, North America’s first black multi-millionaire, the greatest black philanthropist in American history, severally been ranked as the world’s most influential woman and more. Gives you chills yes? But you can just do the exact same thing. What’s stopping you?
Nick Vujicic, born with no limbs, runs an international Non-profit organization and ministry, founded a motivational speaking company, written not one but several books and spoken at great forums all across the globes. You have hands and legs, what’s your excuse? What’s your circumstance?
Success is not only in regard to your career, business or finances, success is the accomplishment of an aim or purpose. I also believe that success is attaining a level of satisfaction in who you are, what you do and where you are in your life in all aspects.
Try thinking of it this way, think of the one individual who you look up to, who you wonder what they did to get to where they are or rather the individual who has a profound story, and ask yourself, do they have two heads? Do they have 4 hands? Do they have 29 hours a day? If no, (Assuming the answer is no, or else we should look into that individual) then it’s the same for you as well right? What makes then extraordinary is the “extra”, so quit being ordinary and become extraordinary. Start that blog/vlog and stay consistent. Open that business and plan out how to maximize on profit, start small and work up. Lose that weight and get into the best shape of your life. What’s stopping you? If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten. You want more, then do more!
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